Everyday we are in contact with individuals and sometimes we don’t know where their motives are in relation to us. This 30dayPUSH for me has been much more focused on mental peace and physical wellness (what’s on the inside.) Being said, I’ve been much more observant not just to what those around me are saying, but rather the intention coupled with it.
One of my favorite speeches (religious aspect removed) is on the 3 types of friendships in life.
According to Bishop T.D Jakes, the three types of friendships are…
1. CONFIDANTS – You have very few of them – these are people who welcome you unconditionally. They are into you whether you are up or down, right or wrong, they are in it for the long haul. You can share anything with them. Having a good confidant is one of the keys that unlock the Kingdom.
These are people who you can share your deepest and darkest inner thoughts with, who won’t judge you but will feed you instead of draining you.
Have you ever had relationships where the person was emotionally immature and consistently draining you? It’s okay to help others but you must have someone who feeds you so you can feed someone else. They will confront you; they’ll get in your business and get in your face and tell you when you are wrong BUT will also come back and be by your side no matter what. They will never leave.
2. CONSTITUENTS - They are not into you but are into what you are FOR. They are for what you are for. As long as you are for what they are for they will be with you but never think they are for you. If they meet someone else that will meet their agenda they will hook up with them and leave you. Don’t mistake a constituent for a confidant. By the time you fall in love or are connected with them in a relationship, they will hook up with someone else and break your heart, leaving you wondering, “I thought our relationship was deeper than that.”
3. COMRADES - These are not for you nor are they for what you are for. They are just against what you are against. They are strange bedfellows. They are the enemy of your enemy who will team up with you to help you fight a greater enemy. They will only be with you until the victory is accomplished.
They are like scaffolding that is there until the building is built but is later removed because the building is built. Don’t be upset when they leave. They were not supposed to be there anyway. Don’t tell your dream to your constituents they will try to fulfill the dream without you. Don’t tell your dream to your comrades because they will not support you because they are not for you in the first place.
What do say you? I thought this was an interesting breakdown even as I felt some things were missing.
Strive to keep the mind, body and soul clean and happiness is inevitable.
![30dayPUSH: Day 17
Today is Back and Shoulders
I decided to lift heavy today since I have been lifting light with more reps and slower. It felt good to be lifting heavy again! Now if I can just get my diet 100% under control! I splurge at night on the sugar x__x
Here is my heavy back/shoulder work out.
Keep up the hard work FitFam!
**DB Press 12,12,11,10 [35,40,45,50] Side lateral raises 15,12,12,11 [15,17.5,20,22.5]Front DB raise 12,12,11 [20,22.5,25]Cable lateral raise 12,12,10,11 [15x2,17.5x2] Wide grip lat pull down 12x4 [85,100,110,120]}Machine row 12,12,12,12 [80,90,95,100]Lower back hyper ext 12x3 [35lb plate]AbsStanding oblique crunch 45plate 20x3Rope Pull Down crunch 20x3Hanging Leg Raises 15x3Cardio](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2ntifMPnm1r9wuiho1_1280.jpg)
